You Love Each Other.
But Have You Actually
Talked About
Everything?
Money. Sex. Kids. In-laws. Roles. NFP.
What happens when she wants to work and you don't think she should? What happens when he's not the spiritual leader you thought he'd be?
Most engaged couples avoid the hard conversations — then get married and realize they never agreed on anything.
We walk you through the conversations you're avoiding, with frameworks that prevent fights and build real alignment before you say "I do."
"We felt like there was so much more we could be doing to prepare for the biggest decision of our lives. This program was that something more."
The Church prays for
priestly vocations.
What about yours?
Seminarians spend years in formation — studying theology, living in community, learning how to be priests. Their vocation is treated seriously.
But engaged couples? You're facing the biggest decision of your life, and most couples get a weekend Pre-Cana retreat, a checklist of documents, maybe a mentor couple, and "just pray about it."
That's not formation. That's paperwork.
You're not just planning a wedding. You're preparing for a sacrament, a vocation, and a lifetime partnership. And most couples are completely underprepared for what's coming.
You deserve more.
(a retreat and a checklist)
in formation for their vocation
"We felt like there was so much more we could be doing to prepare for the biggest decision of our lives." — Patrick & Moira, Engagement Mentorship graduates
We lived this
season too.
This picture was taken the day Matthew asked Hannah to marry him. They were so excited to finally start their life together. And then they had to wait.
At first, engagement was exciting. Planning. Dreaming. Celebrating. But as the months went on, it became one of the hardest seasons of their lives. The waiting. The uncertainty. The tension between "we're committed" and "we're not married yet." The pressure from family. The fights about things they'd never discussed.
After talking to dozens of engaged couples, Matthew and Hannah realized: everyone feels this way. But nobody talks about it.
While their priest was amazing and their mentor couple was helpful, they kept thinking: "There's so much more we should be doing to prepare for the biggest decision of our lives."
This program was built to be that "something more."
This program is for
couples who…
You're an engaged Catholic couple who wants to enter marriage with eyes wide open
You're seriously dating and discerning marriage — you want to do it right
You love each other but realize you haven't talked about everything
You want more than a weekend retreat and a checklist
You're willing to have difficult conversations now instead of painful fights later
You want someone to validate whatever you've already decided
You're looking for a quick checklist, not a real conversation
You want someone to tell you what to do
You're not willing to be honest with each other
What we cover
Every element comes from Matthew's studies in psychology, marriage and family, virtue ethics, and theology — combined with of lived marriage experience with Hannah.
Psychology & Theology of Marriage
Understand what you're actually entering into. The sacramental reality of marriage — not just "a commitment." The anthropology of masculinity and femininity. The psychological dynamics that shape how two people become one. Why marriages fail — and how to prevent it.
"You need to understand the covenant you're making — not just romantically, but theologically and psychologically."
Communication & Conflict
How to fight without destroying each other. Communication patterns that build intimacy vs. create distance. The language of needs, expectations, and boundaries. How to repair after a fight — this is more important than avoiding fights.
"Most couples don't know how to communicate well. Then they get married and wonder why everything feels harder."
The Conversations You're Avoiding
We guide you through the topics most couples skip entirely:
Debt, budgeting, financial decisions, spending habits
Expectations, NFP methods, openness to life, past wounds
How many, when, parenting philosophy, infertility
Who does what, work decisions, headship, division of labor
Parent involvement, holidays, setting limits now
Who leads prayer, what shared faith looks like, differences in practice
"These aren't 'nice to talk about' topics. These are the things that destroy marriages when left unaddressed."
Virtue & Habit Formation
Marriage is a school of virtue. We help you identify the virtues you each need to grow in — as individuals and as a couple. Prudence for wise decisions. Justice for fairness. Fortitude for the hard seasons. Temperance for self-control in conflict, spending, and desire.
"You're not just preparing for a wedding. You're preparing to become better people together."
Practical Life Integration
Daily rhythms and schedules. Prayer life as a couple. Household responsibilities and expectations. Conflict resolution routines. How to stay connected when life gets busy and demanding.
"Marriage isn't just theology and psychology. It's dishes, budgets, schedules, and who takes out the trash."
How it works
Free Intro Call 30 min · Free
We'll talk about where you are in your engagement, what you're hoping to prepare for, and whether this program is a good fit. No pressure. No obligation. Both of you on the call.
Customized Program Design Tailored to you
Every couple is different. Some are engaged for 6 months, others for 2 years. We build a program that fits your specific situation, timeline, and the areas you most need to address.
Ongoing Sessions Live · Video
We meet multiple times over your engagement to work through the hard conversations, communication skills, virtue formation, and practical life planning. Both Matthew and Hannah present. Homework and exercises between sessions.
Continued Support Until the Wedding All the way through
As you get closer to the wedding, new questions and stresses will emerge. We're available for check-ins, questions, and support as you need it — all the way to the finish line.
Meet Matthew &
Hannah Jandernoa
Matthew has spent 8+ years studying psychology, marriage and family, virtue ethics, and theology — and living it out in his own marriage. He's worked with dozens of couples through NET Ministries, Catholic life coaching, and private mentorship.
He knows what engaged couples are facing because he's been there. And he knows what it takes to build a strong marriage because he's doing it every day.
Hannah brings the perspective of lived marriage, motherhood, and honest conversation about the realities of married life. She's not here to sugarcoat or give you the "perfect Catholic marriage" script.
She's here to tell you the truth about what's coming — and how to prepare for it.
Together they have navigated all the challenges that come with building a life together. They're not perfect. But they've learned what works.
Book Your Free Intro CallWords from those who've
been through the program.
"We felt like there was so much more we could be doing to prepare for the biggest decision of our lives. This program was that something more."
— Patrick & Moira, Engagement Mentorship graduates
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Custom pricing based
on your needs.
Because every couple is different, we don't have a one-size-fits-all price. We'll discuss it on your free intro call.
We'll discuss pricing on your free intro call after we understand your specific situation and needs.
Book Free Intro CallWant more information first? Request a detailed program overview — we'll send everything you need, no call required.
Before you reach out.
The wedding is one day.
The marriage is the rest of your life.
We'll talk about where you are, what you need, and whether this program is a good fit. No pressure. No obligation. Just an honest conversation.
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